When Do I Go For Counselling?

By | Anxiety, Careers, Depression, Food for thought, Suicide, Uncategorized

Living the good life.  What does it look like and what does it feel like?

Thomas Jefferson said that, “life, liberty, and the pursuit of happiness” are our fundamental rights.  As a counsellor, I know that many people are not experiencing a personal sense of well-being and are living lives of quiet desperation.  It is feeling not so easy to life the good life.

When I work with the courageous people that have decided to confront their struggles and come for counselling, I ask them before each session to give me a measure of their personal well-being, their relationship well-being, the well-being of their work, and the well-being of their social life.  While these measurements are obviously subjective and they vary a bit over time, for the post part, as we work together, there is an upward trend in the level of life satisfaction that they experience.

We know from research that counselling works to improve the quality of life.  Does that mean that everyone needs to come for counselling when the quality of their lives leaves much to be desired?  No, not necessarily.  A lot of people figure it out on their own.  In general though, it does take some work to become happy and to experience happiness as it does not magically show up on its own in our lives.

Some of us are fortunate enough to come from and live in circumstances that are more supportive of living a good life but even there, even if we are not aware of it, we are using a set of skills that build personal, relationship, and social well-being.  The development of that set up skills started in our childhood and will continue to be on the agenda for the duration of our lives because being a human personal means to continually develop.  We are developmental beings and that takes work and awareness.  So, in living the good life, our task is not so much to seek happiness but to see and find all the barriers that we have built against it and to develop the skills that support personal, relationship, and social well-being.

Counselling is a good way to focus on the state of our well-being in the major areas of our life and to recommit to correct the deficiencies and obstacles that stand in the way.  In this way, we can help you to make the choices and develop the skills to live a good life.

If you find yourself dissatisfied with the quality of your life, and you are feeling stuck, consider giving us a call.

— Nico Scholten

National Depression Screening

By | Anxiety, Food for thought

Nico mentioned to me awhile ago when I was setting up Vivid that he thought that the word VIVID “calls up an image of being alive and vigorous, which I think we all should be, and that is what I hope for our clients to have vivid lives.”  This has been on my mind ever since and as I meet with each and everyone of my clients.

It is on my mind in particular as October 6 marks National Depression Screening day.  Statistics Canada notes that in 2012, 11 in every 100,000 people in Canada commit suicide.  The National Depression Screening website highlights that approximately 70% of people who commit suicide give a warning that they are contemplating ending their lives.

Depression is a treatable mental health disorder.  The National Depression Screening website, highlights some of the most common signs and symptoms of depression:

  • Changes in sleep habits and appetite
  • Poor Concentration
  • Loss of energy
  • Loss of interest in usual activities
  • Low self-esteem or feelings of worthlessness
  • Hopelessness or guilt
  • Recurring thoughts of death or suicide

If you or someone you know is experiencing signs and symptoms of depression, seek help.  It is possible to achieve wellness and health.  It is possible to live vigorous, vivid lives.


Welcome to Vivid

By | Anxiety, Food for thought

Welcome to Vivid Psychology.  Vivid was created with a simple purpose in mind; to help people heal from past experiences, experience positive personal growth, and to help them to realize their strengths to live their best possible lives.  We believe that each of us has the ability to make positive change and that we are all deserving of the opportunity to live our lives in a healthier way.

So, why Vivid?  The definition of vivid is to make clear in the mind.  Often, people seek out help and support to gain insight on a problem, to work through solutions to obstacles, or to gain clarity from something that is bothering them.  This is where vivid came from; from a belief that all of us have the ability to see more clearly, whether it is our beliefs and values, our goals and dreams, or our path forward.

With these values in mind, we will support you in finding your clarity, your path, your strength.  We will help you to discover your strengths and abilities and help you to achieve your goals and objectives in a way that makes the most sense for you.

We will endeavour to blog on a regular basis on a variety of wellness topics, to provide information and resources, or to address some of the events occurring in our communities around us.